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19 Mar 2012

homes

Whatever Home is, it's something emotive and different for all of us.

My theme word, Home, is of course an emotional journey, but these themes often manifest as something concrete. In our case, this year, a turmoil of abodes.

We emigrated here to Montenegro, from England, in 2007. It has been everything and more than I wanted it to be. We have grown as a couple, and as individuals. And we had our girl here.

But it's time to move on. And the plan is to return to England.

We built a big ol' stone house that was initially to be a permanent home. So selling it is not only essential, it's also very tricky - being up in the sticks, as we say.

But it turns out that the glut of apartments here has made 'villas' (farmhouses) away from the bay-side, a rarity and coveted by many holidaymakers and travel agents.


Yet this house won't budge without full completion of works as well as some additions. One of these is a pool. But we don't have the cash for wardrobes (18 months later still using our suitcases), let alone such luxuries.

And so we started to talk the dreams out, the basic needs, and what had to happen. And a few days before we leave here for our UK visit (December), out of the blue, we are offered the chance to see all this come true. A travel company is willing to pay 4 months rental income upfront for the chance to have our house on a 2-year contract with them.
Yes, up front.

In a nutshell, the rent finances everything we need to get done.

A wonderful and amazing opportunity.

But of course it also means moving out of or beautiful home, and opening it up to strangers. It means being away from all that adds to our days (my books and art supplies, her toys, books, supplies... our beautiful studio, the surrounding woods). It means uprooting Miss 3 a few times in one year. Away from her familiar comforts and friends. It means living in a sort of limbo for months at a stretch. And it means days of crazy stress and work for the next 3 months as we must be ready for the end of May.

Yet the house will be finished! and ready to become someone else's home when that person comes along. And that will then mean the start of our complete return to England, and the next stage of this journey called life.


31 comments:

  1. Wow Mon, that is truly a big change. That's so amazing that that opportunity has arisen, but I can't imagine the emotional and a stressful side of this big journey. Thanks for sharing this and please keep us updated on your journey!
    Ronnie xo
    (p.s. Thanks for reminding me of decaf!)

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  2. So happy for you all! Boy do I understand the fears of uprooting your child. Our little guy has been uprooted well over 6x in the past 6 years. It sucks. Though the younger they are, the easier it is. Of course, that also depends on the child. Children can be so adaptable. It's usually us adults that get the most worked up ;-). Really nice to hear that everything has fallen into place and wishing you all the best in your journey towards your new 'home'.

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    1. yeah, they do adapt well.
      i'm the nomad but i am very aware of her needs, which is roots, familiarity. i'm hoping that we'll spend most/all the time away at the grandparents. a place she already knows and just one change.

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  3. Very exciting! A lot of changes, perhaps accompanied by some stress, but think of the end result. A chance to follow your dreams and go back to England.

    Children are so resilient. And Miss 3 will always have what, I'm sure, brings her the most comfort - the love and presence of Mum and Dad. :)

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    1. thank you. yes, ultimately i'm her Home.

      she's a child who likes the familiar and she always has an initial struggle when we leave home. and she actually hugged our house on our return once! so i am conscious of this and will do all i can to minimise the feeling of being unsettled.

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  4. wow, big news. I'm happy you follow your dreams. good luck with everything xx

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    1. always a dream chaser. :)
      thanks Petra!

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  5. wowzers! so very exciting....and very upheavalish, yes -- but Big Picture-wise, so exciting....

    and there's a saying along the lines of "home is where they love you" - so even though Miss 3 will feel the pang of missing her 'place', she'll have you and Mr. and a grand adventure ahead.

    xo

    ps. do you mean you're leaving your books and art supplies in the house with Strange People? please tell me you're putting them in storage or something....:O

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    1. heehee... no. will leave tons of fiction for them. but the goodies, the treasures, will be locked away. ;)

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  6. wow, what a story! & such a beautiful stone house. Look forward to following your journey's next stage called "life" ...

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  7. That's wonderful Mon. Love it when serendipity dances at the feet of our dreams!!! In limbo--such a strange and challenging place to be. The anticipation of the next phase keeps things moving though doesn't it? I hope these next 3 months fly fast and smooth for all of you!!
    xo

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  8. I am happy for you! Yes a lot of work but a great opportunity! Kids adjust much easier than we think...
    Life is so unpredictable! don't you just love that ?

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  9. such awesome opportunities and I'm so happy for you!!

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  10. That's such a big decision, but such a fantastic opportunity at the same time. I'm sure that no matter where you are, as long as your family is close, that place will become home.

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  11. Follow your dreams my dear! You're doing so great already! :)

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  12. It's amazing how things work themselves out, isn't it? Challenging times, though!

    Miss 3 will go through some upheaval, too, but she's at a resilient age. We moved from city to country when my kids were preschool age (rented four homes in four months!) and built a home. It's exhausting, but it sounds like you're doing what's right for your family now. Best wishes to you!

    And get your rest...I know you're an insomniac like I am. ;)

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    1. woah, that's a lot of homes in that period of time. but yeah, at some point it's in the past.

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  13. That is a lot of change, and change is never easy. Make sure you give yourself some peaceful time every day.

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    1. yes, i am looking always for those little moments.

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  14. beautiful house.
    interesting to read your words,
    there are so many similar stories around me, something energetic for many people, huge changes and how to deal with them...
    pulling our roots out and finding fresh soil for them,
    good luck on this journey!

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  15. i wish you from all my heart all the best for all these changes - i know how difficult is to move and start new and leave things behind - and dont worry, everything will work out just fine at the end :)

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    1. thank you so much Julia. and i trust that it will!

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  16. Wow, some big changes ahead! You've written about feeling called to return to the UK for a while, so very nice to hear you have a chance to do that. When you return (after the rental period/ work), will you live in the midlands again or are you gonna try out another area?

    Actually, fancy coming back this week? We can't find a painter/ decorator to save our lives and the mister would be just the man lol!

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    1. initially it'll be the midlands. while we make a hard decision on where we want to live, and possibly gather cash to establish something.
      he already has work lined up for this summer! lol
      but actually making the move over there will be after the house sells, so who knows when that will happen.

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  17. wow,thanks for share your happiness!:)

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  18. Wonderful to know that you are moving back to England, Monica! Wish you all the best! Hope the move is smooth and goes well. Will be missing your posts on your adventures in Montenegro and Serbia and other Central European countries :)

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  19. This is wonderful news! Bitter-sweet I'm sure, but another step closer to England. How great to be able to afford what you want/need to do the house. You'll be fine, you guys seem very adaptable to the nomadic lifestyle, and I think it'll be a great experience for the little one.
    Everyone should live out of a suitcase at some time in their life.
    I love the pic - your house is absolutely amazing to see and so so pretty!

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  20. i very strongly understand attachment (and all of the stories and history associated with such important things as home) and i am trying to learn to let go. these things define us. these things do not define us.

    the offer from the travel agents: what a wonderful real life opportunity.

    xo
    erin

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  21. Sometimes life takes care of itself isn't it? Good luck for your going back to England! I didn't know you were living in Montenegro, how interesting Monica!

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  22. This blog looks familiar! ;)

    It makes me a little sad that you are leaving your house. Not just because I sat over here and read about how you struggled to build it, but because I LOVE that house. I'd cry if I was the one leaving it, lol. I'm looking forward to seeing what happens in England, though!

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